Teaching Your Child about Losing Gracefully

Teaching Your Child about Losing Gracefully

Teaching Your Child about Losing Gracefully

Let’s face it, losing is never a pleasant feeling.  Everyone wants to win at whatever it is that we set out to do.  Its just as adults, we have learned how to lose and learn from the experience.  The ability to learn learn from losing  is a difficult but important lesson to learn.  Teaching your child about losing gracefully will help them cope with failures as adults.  Teaching our children to lose with dignity is a lesson that will last them a lifetime, Once learned they will develop the ability to reflect and learn from this experience as time passes.  When teaching your child about losing gracefully, keep these thoughts in mind.

Being Respectful of the Winner

Teach your child to consider others when they are in the middle of strong emotions.  Acknowledge to your child that you understand their feelings about losing.  Let them know its normal to be disappointed but its not acceptable to lash out angrily and be alone when they have lost a competition or something else that was important to them.  They need to learn the importance of being a team.  Children need to learn from the person who won and be supportive of the winner.

Considering the Others Who Did Not Win

Teaching your child about losing gracefully means teaching them to remember all the others who also did not win. Everyone might be feeling discouraged and disappointed, but they should use this opportunity to have a healthy perspective to change the way everyone feels. If your child’s sports team has lost several games, your child could encourage them to keep trying,

Learning What You Can

Whenever there is a failure, there is a lesson that can be learned. If your child is disappointed by a big loss, help them to put things in perspective with your encouragement.

Perhaps your child can learn the importance of extra studying if they didnít put in quite enough study time. Maybe they are learning a tough lesson about the character of a friend who dragged them down with their lack of effort on the project. Perhaps your child usually wins, and simply needs to learn the lesson of humility. Whatever the situation might be, there is always something that can be learned, and valuable knowledge that can be gained.

Build Self-Esteem

Building self-esteem is key to teaching your child about losing gracefully. The most important aspect of losing is to have a strong self image.  Its knowing that despite losing it isn’t a reflection of themselves but to use it as a learning experience.

Teach them that their value does not come from what they can do, but who they are as a person. Remind them that they are special, and unique. This builds a foundation that will help them recover from the disappointment of losing as a child and as an adult.

Winning is exciting, but it is important to know how to lose as well. Knowing how to lose gracefully will help your child become the well-rounded individual who will succeed whatever the outcome.

All the best,

Tania Sims

Smart and Snazzy Kids/Motivated Kids.Rocks